Category Archives: Relationship Rescue

And the Moral of the Story is…

Fable of the Porcupine It was the coldest winter ever.  Many animals died because of the cold.The porcupines, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each … Continue reading

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Changing the Family Dynamics over Canada’s Thanksgiving Weekend!

Is the anger already building? How many sleeps til Thanksgiving? Are you already with family, or still dreading it? Have you planned what you’re going to say THIS TIME to him/her? Have you come up with the PERFECT COME BACK? … Continue reading

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How to Talk to the Aggressive Person on the Teeter-Totter! Your Anger UnTangled

If Angie is angry with Fred, listen. Ask her why. Tell her that she is right to handle Fred the way she is.  Get her talking. If she wants to get over her anger and get along better with Fred, … Continue reading

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How to Talk to People Who Are Having Problems with Others! Anger UnTangled

There is no room for you on their teeter-totter. Get off! Hold Fred competent. Tell him that he is right to handle Angie the way he is. Ask him if he wants to change it. You might explain to him … Continue reading

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When We Step Onto Others’ Relationship Teeter-Totters We Prove We’re NOT a Good Friend!

Angie is pushing Fred, not because she wants to push him around, but because she wants him to set his boundaries so that he is a safe person to be with. In stepping between them you have ensured that Fred … Continue reading

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Accurate Anger Week Day 4: You Can Be Right or You Can Be Angry

The need to be RIGHT or IN CONTROL drives a huge amount of our anger. Today, is it possible, that other people simply have a completely different way of thinking, with completely different processes and completely different ideas AND IS … Continue reading

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Accurate Anger Week Day 2: Accept 100% Responsibility for your Anger and your Hurt

I hate to say it but, “It’s NOT their fault.” Your emotions belong to you. Nobody makes you angry, frustrated, irritated, annoyed, sad…So it’s not completely accurate to say, “I feel (blah) when you do (blah).” Because that is PUTTING … Continue reading

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Accurate Anger Week: Direct your Anger at the Right Situation NOT towards the Innocent

Often, when we’re angry, we don’t stop to figure out, REALLY FIGURE OUT, why. Instead, we feel the anger and attack the nearest target — and often the nearest target is an innocent: child, spouse, family, friend, coworker, or innocent … Continue reading

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Does Asking for Help Bring Frustration for You?

Anger can often build when we ask someone for help. We need to be really clear about the help we need. It’s not about the chore itself, it’s about how the help is given. Are you willing to 

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Anger Management this week: Use the QTIP–Quit Taking It Personally!

Part of a forum this week where an African American lady (let’s call her Patty) made reference to “n!gger.” An African American friend (we’ll call him Brian) took offense but did admit to using

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