We ALL create drama. And each of the 4 communication styles does it differently. To gain control on anger, figure out which communication style you are and stop YOUR drama techniques!
Strategists – (perfectionists, remember?) create drama (especially in their heads because they NEVER talk!) by focusing on worst case scenario. “OMG, our 6 year old daughter cut her finger. It’s going to get infected. She’ll get gangrene. Blood poisoning! Let’s get her to the doctor!” (hmmm…how about a bandaide?)
Pacifists – (get along people) create drama by being that nice person who always listens. And let’s people go on and on and on and on and on and on and on about their difficult people; and buying in, and trying to help solve that other person’s issue. (If they refused to listen, there would be any drama!)
Enthusiasts – (get attention people) EVERYTHING IS DRAMA! These wonderful people gossip about others, do the third party “did you HEAR what Elsa SAID about YOU!”
Activists – (get ‘er done people) As an Activist I can assure you, WE don’t create drama in relationships (it’s always those OTHER people — Yeah, right!) Activists create drama by knowing EXACTLY how everyone should do everything and TELLING them. And getting confrontational when all those others don’t do it the RIGHT way (and my way IS the right way!)
Which one do you do? Recognize that it comes from your dominant communication style and let it go! This is one of the easy techniques of anger management and a simple way to gain control on anger.