What Is Anger? The Most MisUnderstood and MisUsed ‘Emotion’!

Posted on October 31, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

What Is Anger? EBookI am astonished that the general masses are still mislabeling anger. Because they don’t understand what it is, people continue to try to deal with their own anger and with other difficult, angry people with techniques that have never worked.

When I finally came across this research for the first time, over 15 years ago, I thought I was almost the only one who hadn’t heard and realized that anger really isn’t an emotion. Now I’m finding out that there are a lot of people still out there trying to handle anger in a way that isn’t working.

So here is my first EBOOK! Cool! I have a number of regular best-sellers but this is my first EBook What Is Anger? The Most MisUnderstood and MisUsed ‘Emotion’!

If you are dealing with any difficult people, at all! OR if you are trying to conquer your own anger, you will get good, easy answers here.

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What Is Anger? Falsely Perceiving a Threat to Our Self Esteem!

Posted on October 24, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

alive before deathMy self esteem is mine. A perceived threat to my body, property, values or sense of entitlement is exactly that — perceived! And if we only change our perception, we WILL handle the situation without anger! I read a really interesting statement in “The New Psycho Cybernetics” just yesterday that gave me an “AH HA” moment.

“Those instances where we respond with irritation, frustration, annoyance, anger — those responses are learned behaviors.” I definitely learned them very, very well. But any learned response can be relearned. I’m going to put some extra effort in over the next few weeks to respond with chuckles, jokes and my sense of the ridiculousness. I think I’ll have a lot more fun that way.

How can we teach children to handle those incidents in their lives with humor, calmness, a sense of acceptance as opposed to attacking others with our anger??

Look for my new ebook What is Anger? The Hidden Secret Finally Revealed

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What Is Anger? It Is ALWAYS Our Attack!

Posted on October 21, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

100% OF THE TIME, NO EXCEPTIONS, WHEN PEOPLE ARE BEING DIFFICULT THEY ARE temper_tantrumSCARED

 Something in the situation triggered their safety brains to say, It’s not safe! Slam goes that gateway in their brain, shutting off access to their Thinking Brains. Their Safety Brains take over and decide, based on illogical, irrational thinking, how to get safe.

 What Is Anger? Anger is NOT an Emotion. Anger is an attack. Always, 100% of the time, when you get angry, you were scared of something, your safety brain took over and decided that the only way to get safe is to ATTACK.

I’ll bet you’ve even had the thought or said it to someone after you dealt with an angry person, “It felt like he was attacking me.”

What is anger? It is ALWAYS our intent to attack. You cannot feel angry without having someone in your head as your target, even if it is yourself!

To fully understand what anger is, grab my newest ebook being released this week: What Is Anger?

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What Is Anger? It’s NOT An Emotion!

Posted on October 21, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

resting bearIs your spouse/partner being difficult right now? How about one or more of your children? Is your boss difficult? Coworkers? Staff? Do you have the mother-in-law from hell? How about the father-in-law from hell? Mother from hell? Father from hell? What about your brothers and sisters – any of them being difficult? Any difficult neighbours? How about difficult cousins, nephews, nieces, other extended family? Do you have specific friend(s) that are difficult? Difficult customers? Difficult clients?

(How long is your list??)

What are some of the difficult behaviours they engage in?

Anger. Raging. Do you have any whiners and complainers? How about blameless Bettys and blameless Bobs (it wasn’t MY fault!) Aggressive behaviour. Yelling. Shouting. Bullying behaviour. One-up-man-ship – they always did it bigger, better, worse, smarter. People who won’t make decisions. People who won’t do their jobs. People who are always late. Do you have any “poor me” people in your life? Victims? Everything, everybody is always against them? And the list goes on and on and on and on and on….

100% of the time…when people are being difficult, they ARE scared!

To explore this further, grab my new ebook WHAT IS ANGER coming out this week!

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Control on Anger: Start Writing Your Gratitude List Right NOW!

Posted on October 4, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

Thanksgiving TurkeysThis weekend is Canada’s Thanksgiving. I’m starting today to make a written list as long as possible of everything and everyone in my life that I am grateful for. I’m doing this for two reasons.

1. When we express gratitude, with our full feeling of gratitude behind it, we raise our own personal vibration and opportunities and doors open that we would never expect.

2. But the bigger reason is this: I don’t feel thankful or gracious or particularly happy when I am waiting for others to express their thankfulness and gratitude towards me. AND I FEEL AWESOME when I take the time to express my thankfulness and gratitude towards others — either silently on a written list, or verbally to their face.

I am feeling great ALL THE TIME and this is one of the best ways and reasons — constantly expressing gratitude keeps me in a very positive, happy mood and then there’s no room for anger or negativity.

Come on my Canadian friends – this weekend has been DESIGNATED as our weekend to be thankful – so let’s put some personal effort into being thankful for everything in our lives. I think I should be able to make at least 20 pages of things I’m grateful for, how about you?

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I LOVE It When…The Dogs Walk Themselves: Change My Thinking and Gain Full Control On Anger!

Posted on September 19, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

dog chasing rabbitAt the same off leash, in the same place, the rabbits, jack rabbits, play. And my girls KNOW where those rabbits like to play. And Richa, our beautiful black Fila Brasileiro checks out the rabbits every morning.

Yup, they were there this morning. Problem is, when the rabbits start running, they run across the street, down the back alley, and don’t stop running – it’s a bit worrisome! And YES, normally, I’m getting a bit irate by the time I corral all the dogs back in the car.

And then I realized…all 5 dogs ran at their top speed for about 5 minutes this morning – around and around and around and across and through and between, in the fully fenced parking lot where the rabbits are.

Some days I feel guilty because I don’t get the dogs out walking as far or as fast as they might need. This morning…they walked themselves…well they RAN themselves! They had GREAT EXERCISE!

Thank you rabbits! Let’s do it again tomorrow!

Change your thinking and you can gain FULL CONTROL on your anger!

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I’ve Had The Most Remarkable Morning: Control On Anger!

Posted on September 19, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

Just driving a few blocks to the off leash to walk the dogs and “What IS THAT SMELL?” Realized…where car broken downdid YOUR MIND GO????

It was the car in front of me, engine overheating. I followed her. And when she pulled over, I ran over to her car and had her turn off the engine. We put a bit of water in, and there was a mechanic only a couple of blocks away.

You know, it feels really good to take time out of my day and out of my way to help someone else…I think I’ll hug that feeling close all day and be happy! And I know when I’m happy, I don’t get angry at anything so I’ll have perfect control on anger today!

I really hope all it takes is a bit of antifreeze to get her up and running again – no engine damage!

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Anger Management Tips: Stopping and Smelling The Roses Doesn’t Work!

Posted on September 19, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

Sparkling TreesI love the summer. I love everything about the summer. And a few years ago I remember hearing everyone saying how fast the summer flies by — sound familiar?

I remember driving home and looking, really LOOKING at the trees and noticing how the sunlight absolutely sparkled off all of the leaves. And it was the same on the next tree and the next and the next.

That summer didn’t fly by for me. I enjoyed moments everyday BECAUSE whenever I looked at the trees I would notice how the sunlight sparkled off the leaves. It’s not about loving how the sunlight sparkled off the leaves; it’s not even about stopping and noticing the sunlight sparkling off the leaves what REALLY WORKS to keep me happy (and when I’m happy I’m not getting angry – so this is a TO anger management tip!)

What really works is, every time I see the sun sparkling off the leaves to stop and remind myself how much I love that!

So don’t just love the roses. Don’t just stop and smell the roses. What works is every time you stop and smell the roses REMIND YOURSELF how much you love that!

How many things could you possible notice in your day TODAY that you love? Stop and remind yourself how much you love him/her, it, that, them! I promise, you won’t have time to get angry today – you’ll be too busy enjoying your life!

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Anger Management Tips: Activists Are Good The First Time They Try Something And Then…?

Posted on September 5, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

All four communication styles learn differently and implement differently — often leading to anger withActivist communication style each other, cause they are different! When you understand the differences it’s a TOP Anger Management Tip!

I was reminded of this just this morning, reading Jenny Hestons’ http://lifeloveandlandslides.com/kids-and-pets/what-do-you-want-to-learn. She alluded to the fact that “if you don’t get it right away…”

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Ladies, Are You Just Like Katie Holmes? She’s Just Reacting To A Transition Of Life

Posted on August 8, 2012 by Jeanette Kasper

1. Is your youngest child starting First Grade?       YES              NOKatie Holmes Tom Cruise

2. Have you found yourself consistently arguing/fighting more with your spouse/partner in the past 6 – 24 months?        YES            NO

3. Are you becoming more and more dissatisfied with your marriage and starting to think separation/divorce?        YES            NO

4. Do you find yourself looking at different career and/or volunteer opportunities, seriously considering getting into something brand new OR having another child?        YES              NO

5. Are you, in general, restless and dissatisfied with your life – feeling stuck in a rut?        YES             NO

6. Are you depressed? Listless? Unmotivated? Unhappy? or have been, more so, in the past 6 – 24 months?        YES             NO

7.  Do you find yourself unhappy and talking and thinking more negatively about friends, coworkers, work, hobbies, family?        YES               NO

8. Do you get angry or weepy for no reason?        YES              NO

9. Are you seriously considering making a major relocation of your family – not just to another house in the same neighbourhood?        YES              NO

10. Are you fabulously rich, gorgeous, married to Tom Cruz and living a charmed life?        YES             NO

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